{"id":6764,"date":"2019-09-13T11:03:13","date_gmt":"2019-09-13T15:03:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/apples.masterhouse.net\/?p=6764"},"modified":"2019-09-13T13:01:18","modified_gmt":"2019-09-13T17:01:18","slug":"season-of-single","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.thisisdialog.com\/index.php\/2019\/09\/13\/season-of-single\/","title":{"rendered":"Season of Single"},"content":{"rendered":"

I want to have Intentional relationships!<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0 I have been single for a really long time\u2026 like three and half years. Yup three and a half years!!
\nI mean besides the odd two week relationship (which doesn\u2019t count)..(Which means -> Yes those picture were staged for a photoshoot I did, and I met the guy about 10 minutes prior to the shoot, lol).\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 I have had a lot of people ask me why I am single, so I thought I would write\u00a0about it.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0I want to go into dating open heartedly and with purpose.\u00a0<\/i><\/b>Most\u00a0people I know date as a\u00a0sport, and I used to be guilty of this too. I used to date around with no real care about it, but I have watched my friends over and\u00a0over again tell me how\u00a0lost they feel, how empty it makes them and how unfulfilled they are by dating and I used to feel that way to.<\/span><\/p>\n

Our generation has changed the way we date. It is easier than ever to swipe and find your next date.\u00a0No-one courts\u00a0anyone anymore because they don’t have to or because they fear\u00a0rejection. It is so rare to actually just strike up a conversation with a stranger or ask someone out face to face. (it just doesn’t happen anymore).\u00a0People have become so accessible that they are now just a face on a screen.<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0 I have only ever been exposed to relationships that do more healing and fixing than they do preparation.<\/i><\/b> In life when we run a marathon we prepare for it, when we compete in something we do the work to be the best competitor, when we take tests at school we study in preparation for it, when we go on a trip we do the research it takes to have the best trip, yet in relationships we never prepare for them.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

So what does it mean to be living with purpose and dating with purpose?<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0I would rather spend time with people who have purpose in my life, people who add value and <\/i>people who will be in my life forever not just people who will be around for a season to fill a temporary void.\u00a0<\/i><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 I was listening to a podcast from John Grey and he said something that really spoke to me he said \u201cThe more you become influential the smaller your circle gets. Find people that you cannot con. Some people need to be kept at a distance because of the level of purpose on your life. You cannot waste time on people who don\u2019t understand. You are not being lifted, you are being launched. You aren\u2019t gradually ascending, you are rapidly ascending and the higher you go the more oxygen you need, so don\u2019t have people in your space that are taking up oxygen that you will need on your journey\u201d.<\/i><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 In other words people who you surround yourself will either give you life or they will take it away.<\/i><\/b> I don\u2019t want to add a relationship in my life that will take life from me and not push me forward. I believe that God has a big purpose for me and I know that if I get into the wrong relationship I will never fulfill that purpose. \u00a0<\/i><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

How can we fully love someone else and be in relationships until we really love ourselves?<\/i><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 In the past I have been in relationships that have taken life from me, that have consumed my energy, my thoughts, and my life in a negative way. I don\u2019t regret any of the relationships I have had because they have all taught me lessons, and I wouldn\u2019t be who I am without them, but ultimately I did not love myself through these years and I certainly didn’t take the time to get to know myself.\u00a0<\/i><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 Our seasons of singleness is\u00a0probably\u00a0one of the most important times in our life because we have no responsibilities but to ourselves. That\u00a0means ultimately it is the only chance you get to really\u00a0spend time getting to know and love you. So if you are in a season of singleness I would advise that you enjoy it, you become the best version of yourself, spend time figuring out who you are and what your purpose is and when the timing is right, the right person will appear and you will have a stronger relationship because of it.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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